It was unexpected that he went into hospital on a Thursday morning, no one was allowed to go with him or see him. We called and texted but no visits were allowed. He was moved into ICU on Saturday and on Sunday, we were allowed a video call with him, and he seemed in great spirits, his usual self, and our hopes soared that he would be okay.
By Monday afternoon they called us to come in saying he’d taken a turn and we should come and see him. My Mum and brother went in together first. Then my two sisters and I went in together. He was struggling to breathe and was in and out of consciousness and not quite with it…we said what we felt we needed to. We were only allowed a two-hour window for the five of us. We left at 4 pm. The hospital called around 40 minutes later to ask us to discuss whether a move from ICU to palliative care would better suit Dad and us regarding visitation.
As we chatted, they called again and said we needed to return. My sister Tracey and I rushed back in, with two of his grandchildren who wanted to say goodbye. However, by the time we had queued up and checked back in downstairs with all the covid regulations he had just passed away at 5.31 pm.
It still doesn’t seem at all real. We pulled together and organised his funeral around lockdown specifications. We hope he would have been proud. My younger brother David moved in with Mum temporarily as we tried to come to terms with what happened. Then three weeks later David was diagnosed with bowel cancer. His operation is scheduled for 22nd September, and we would value your prayers for a full recovery, and for the family.
I would value your prayers as I seek to support my immediate family with ongoing difficulties and my extended family with these new griefs. I do at times feel a little overwhelmed. The Wellbeing Department at YD has so many projects on the horizon. There is a lot of good work to be done but between lockdowns and feeling pulled in a lot of directions, it’s hard. I am trying to rest in the fact that God doesn’t want me to rush and there will be enough time and enough energy for all that is required if I can push into staying close to Him.